Karla: Gwen Stefani. She seems grounded. She's edgy and I'm guessing her conversations wouldn't just revolve around kids.
Megan: Snooki's a mom?
Tara: Ree Drummond, The Pioneer Woman. I have been cooking her recipes for a while (let's be honest, the one or two times a month I actually get it together to try a new recipe) and I love her TV show on Food Network. She seems very laid back, but still gets a lot of stuff done. I would like that balance. She also really appreciates hanging with her girlfriends.
Let's say the guys (ahem? guys?) offered to take all the kids for the weekend and us moms got to hang out. What would we do?
Becky: We would go to the beach with several bottles of wine and a personal chef to make us whatever we might want. We'd lay on the beach for hours on end just enjoying the quiet of the waves crashing and no one asking for anything.
Karla: Vegas or the Caribbean. As long as we can drink rum and Diet Coke.
Megan: YES!! When are we doing this??
Tara: Eat great food, drink something fun, laugh a lot! Maybe dance on a table.
Does your spouse spend solo time with your child or children? Do you wish he spent more?
Becky: Dad and the kindergartner are doing some serious T-ball together these days. It's great for them to spend some 'man' time together. I wish Dad spent more time with the daughter. She always seems so much more attached to him after even just an evening of 100% daddy time.
Karla: You bet! I work several Saturdays a month and a few mornings and weekends. Max has to step up. When the kids were younger he didn't watch them nearly as much as I would have liked but four-year-olds are much more fun to hang out with than babies.
Megan: Yes, he spends as much time as he can with them.
Tara: Mike is such a great dad! We both work full time, so time with Nicholas is limited to mornings, evenings, and weekends. He does morning duty since I am already gone before Nicholas wakes up, I do pick up, and we tend to trade off on tubby time or cleaning the kitchen after dinner each night. Mike also takes him running when the weather is nice. When he is with Nicholas, he is so natural and patient and kind. I certainly feel that we have an equal parenting partnership.
What's the hardest thing about being a working mom? If you don't work, what do you imagine it is?
Becky: Fitting it all in. Not feeling guilty while doing the other. Trying to make them know that they (including the husband) are loved even though you're not always with them. Making the most of our time together...quality beats quantity, but then making sure your kid isn't a spoiled brat (see back stage passes response above, those are some high expectations we've set...)
Karla: I only work part time but missing family time is tough. I often work while my husband is home and I often get a little jealous of missing out on some of the fun.
Megan: Finding time for everything. And I only work part time!
Tara: The hardest thing is feeling that I am only being able to do a half-way decent job in every role in my life. I never feel like I am being the Mom/Teacher/Wife/Family Member/Friend/Community Member that I want to be. I am not used to half-assing things, and I feel like that is literally all I am able to do now. Also, I feel like I never have time to work out. I know that the health conscious would say that I could get up at 5:00 am and work out in my basement, or work out after we put Nicholas down for the night, but that is just not realistic. I really love to take group fitness classes, and it just does not gel with my schedule right now.
What's the hardest thing about being a stay-at-home-mom? And if you don't stay home, what do you imagine it is?
Becky: I would think it would be the lack of adult conversation...I always feel like stay at home moms are lucky not to go "postal". It seems like it would be so monotonous...laundry, feed them, clean up after them, feed them, nap them, laundry...oh and then you have to entertain them in the mean time...I at least get some "me" time in the car when driving between schools or picking up the kid(s).