One of the best things about becoming a mother is getting to talk parenthood with other mothers. At the playground, at the zoo, over wine. I've always felt incredibly lucky to be surrounded by such a wonderful (and fun) group of mothers. My own mother and mother-in-law, other family members and a multitude of longtime friends, as well new ones I've made since having my first child.
Since I always enjoy talking to other parents and discussing various viewpoints, I thought it would be interesting to gather a small roundtable of moms, ask them all the same questions, and compare answers. I chose four friends I met through my husband when I was introduced to his tight-knit crew of college friends; they're moms I don't get to hang out with as often as I like, but when I do, I'm guaranteed a fantastic time.
A quick apology for conducting this survey months ago and just posting it now, meaning some of the information and ages listed in certain questions could be a bit dated. I'm not going to put "super-efficient" on my resume's skill list anytime soon.
First, a brief introduction that each participant wrote themselves. Then, onto the discussion.
Becky is the mother of a five-year-old kindergartner boy, Teddy, and two-year-old girl, Alison, who lives in Northern Virginia and works full time for the local school system as a traveling educational audiologist.
Megan is a part-time teacher and most-of-the-time stay-at-home mom to two boys, Drew and Evan, ages six-and-a-half and five, and their 15-month-old sister, Julia. She lives in the beautiful Shenandoah Valley of Virginia, and dreams of living somewhere where it is always warm.
Karla is the mother of four-year-old triplets and is a full-time mom and part-time fitness professional. She lives in Park City, Utah.
Tara Cahak is mother to two-year-old Nicholas, wife to Mike, and a full time Special Education teacher in Virginia. She loves being a mom, but now requires two full travel mugs full of coffee to function in the morning.
What is your favorite activity with your children?
Becky: Snuggle time. Or anything that keeps them happily occupied...which is usually dodge ball in the moon bounce.
Karla: The kids are just about the right age to start hiking for one or two miles at a time. We have lots of great trails in Park City our whole family can enjoy.
Megan: Going out for ice cream.
Tara: Reading- Nicholas loves to read stories every night at bedtime. His favorite series is the "How Do Dinosaurs..." which I have turned into a teaching tool. We look for the things the naughty dinosaurs are doing (that often coincide with behaviors that Nicholas currently prefers) and comment on them such as "Oh, Look at that dinosaur. He is NOT sitting on his hieney. Oh, his mommy does NOT look happy". Then Nicholas gleefully tells them "No, No Dinosaur!" and wags his finger at them.
What's the one kid behavior that stresses you out most?
Becky: When Teddy was two, biting. Now, we're concerned about lying/telling the truth. The daughter has yet to challenge the behavior rules other than screaming when we're out at dinner.
Tara: Whining. It's getting better now that his vocabulary is expanding, but man, having a kid follow you around whining/crying is grating.
Are the members of your household currently sleeping well? Are you?
Becky: No. The two-year-old has just cut three molars with the fourth one a quarter of the way in. The five-year-old is doing pretty well. The parents continue to deal with sinus ick/colds. I can't remember the last time I slept the entire night...