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Savage Love: A Possible Deal-Breaker
I recently discovered that my boyfriend of seven months and I have opposing viewpoints on the whole "life begins at conception" issue. He's not a crazy zealot, but he is strongly against abortion. And while he won't go so far as to say abortion should be banned, he does believe in the whole "personhood" concept, i.e., that a fetus — from the moment of conception — is a person with the same rights as any other person. This shocked me, and I almost broke up with him. He says that disagreeing on issues is fine in a relationship, but I am not so sure. I find his position abhorrent, one that ignores hundreds of real-life factors, and it opens the door for a litany of laws regulating my body. He's a sweet, loving guy and progressive in every other way. But I'm suddenly unsure about a relationship I viewed as totally solid just a few days ago. I'm not sure if this should be a deal breaker or if this is just a disagreement. Please advise.
By Dan Savage
October 10, 2012