No question here, just a thank-you. Last week, my 16-year-old son told me that he has a crush on his best friend… who just so happens to be a 16-year-old boy. I've known he was gay since he was about 4, but without your column, I don't think I would've been prepared for his "revelation." You and your readers taught me the importance of letting him know that I will always accept him, love him, and support him in any decision he makes. The best part: He wasn't really worried about telling me he's gay; he was worried that I wouldn't let his crush spend the night anymore. (And he was right to worry!)
— Proud Mom
After reading that you intend to "support [your son] in any decision he makes," I started to compose a mildly scolding response in my head. ("Why would you do that? Gay kids, like straight kids, need their parents to be their parents. Your son needs you to meddle lovingly, to criticize constructively, and to help him pull his big gay head out of his big gay ass when it needs pulling. And it will, PM, because gay kids make bad decisions, too.") But you made it clear at the end of your letter — he was right to worry about those sleepovers being over — that you aren't confusing "support my gay son" with "sign off on any damn thing my gay son wants." Well done, PM!
I am an 18-year-old British queer girl who was recently involved with an older woman while visiting the United States. She told me about your "campsite rule," and she followed it to the letter and was generally wonderful. I've since moved back to London and told everyone I know about your column.
Thanks for the lovely note, CC, and tell the older woman I said thanks.