Just because you’re single, does that mean you shouldn’t be allowed to have a wedding? Yes. Yes it does. But some people are trying to change that, including writer Millie Kerr, who wonders in a new article on The Atlantic whether single people should throw their own lavish, wedding-like parties. An excerpt:
While it's clear that some companies are capitalizing on increasingly single demographics, singletons wanting to feel celebrated will have to initiate festivities themselves.
When I approached 30 as a single woman, I decided to host a quinceañera-themed party in San Antonio, which I aptly titled "La Quinceañera Doble." My parents, not having subsidized a wedding, offered to cover some of the expenses, and friends flew in from around the country. Although I felt a tad silly for organizing a destination birthday, the upshot was that my parents and I covered nearly all of the costs (which were nominal compared to a wedding), and no one suffered the indignity of having to wear matching chiffon gowns.
Single people can have parties. When I was single I threw parties all the time. I called them, "parties." I had friends over to my apartment, we drank a shitload and then went out to the bars and tried to pick up girls. After we failed, and the bars kicked us out, we'd go back to my apartment and drink even more. I had these parties once a week, sometimes twice. Occasionally they were theme parties, and one time a chick from the Real World Cancun showed up and blew lines in our bathroom. There were no wedding gowns, but there were plenty of ruffle skirts. There was no fancy cake, but there was Busch Light and Wings Over West Hartford. It wasn't traditional, but it was awesome. See, you don't get a reward for being single. Being single IS the reward. If you want a solo wedding or a singles cake, then really, what you want is a relationship. Which is fine. But don't join the football team and then complain about not getting to ice skate. You should be playing hockey.